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I'm A PFLAG Mom: Fight for Equality

knowhomo:

Alright everyone,

If you are not familiar with PFLAG Mom on Tumblr, I highly recommend you check out her blog. She is a phenomenal ally voice and a great person for insight outside of the teen/twenty-something bubble. 

If you have a Facebook account and feel inclined, please “like” her post and picture. You can find a copy of the picture below (the same picture is posted on the Fight for Equality page).

Keep On Supporting Allies!

-R.

pflagmom:

Fight for Equality - on Facebook is having a contest where you post a picture and explain what equality means to you. This is mine.


WHAT EQUALITY MEANS TO ME: this is a photo of my family. I can’t accept anything less than full equality for my cisgender daughter and my transgender son. That they both will be EQUALLY protected by law in the workplace, in their marriages,parenting, in ALL WAYS. My son’s girlfriend should never fear her employers finding out that her partner is trans. This should never affect their ability to find housing, insurance, property ownership, in the parenting of their future children. Those are my grandchildren from my daughter. Their future cousins must have the same rights as they enjoy. Equality to me is that the two children to whom I gave birth will be afforded EQUALITY- nothing more, and NOTHING LESS.


Hey… you all should go vote on the pic of me, half of art of transliness, and more of pflagmom’s family.

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Anonymous asked: i'm a straight male interested in someone who is ftm. is this a no-go? how can i avoid offending him?

Are you interested in him because he is female-bodied? That’s quite offensive and is more than likely a no-go. However, if you are genuinely interested in him as a person or are thinking it might be good to explore your sexuality, then this is more doable. Explain to him that you are straight, but are interested in him as a male, not as a female. Who knows you might decide that he is a perfect partner and you aren’t as straight as you thought!

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Anonymous asked: Advice for a soffa looking to help out with surgery recovery? I feel lost but I want to be there all that I can.

For me, it was a lot of patience and helping do things like putting on xeroform and showering. Also, food runs. Motion is fairly limited after surgery, so straws are highly recommended. 

Keeping your partner entertained is going to be a huge struggle. They won’t be able to do much on their own for a little while—-even when they think they can, if he doesn’t want to stretch his scars, he needs to limit motion. Zak wished he would have packed more DVDs because the internet connection at the hotel was really slow.

You should also be aware that many transmen experience post-surgery depression. Coming off anesthesia can affect mood, as well as the anticipation of surgery being so great that the actual event is a let down. It isn’t a quick fix for disphoria, and many hope that it will be.

Here’s an article Art of Transliness posted for transmen for preparation of top surgery.

Good luck to you and your partner!

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Anonymous asked: my close friend of 5 years and boyfriend of 1 month recently disclosed to me that he was born female and transitioned when he was 11 (he's 21 now). however, the terminology he used was odd: he never said "trans-" anything (though he transitioned from female to male), and told me that he sees it as a private medical problem. have you ever heard of this? where can i find resources or information? i'm kind of reeling right now. thank you.

Yes, this is not uncommon. Many people who transition young (but not limited to those who do) feel this way. Regularguy93 speaks regularly about this. You should check him out. 

As for resources or information, I don’t really know of any specific to those who transitioned and don’t identify as trans*, although I feel as though much of the advice I would offer any soffa would hold up. Talk to him about it, read some books about trans* issues, etc. Best of luck.

Followers: Any other advice for this anon?

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The word “transgender” is an adjective, and a descriptive word; not a noun or a verb. Just as you wouldn’t call an older person “an old” or say they are “olded”, it is inappropriate to refer to a transgender person as “a transgender” without adding “person”, “woman”, “man”, or any other appropriate noun.
How to Respect a Transgender Person (via kristt)

(Source: wikihow.com, via t-saurus-rex)

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genderqueer:

iragray:

freekygeekyproductions:

MUSIC VIDEO featuring Kaia, a transsexual dancer wrestling with questions of transgender embodiment. 

(There is no attempt to infringe upon copyright laws. Music credit is Janelle Monae’s “Cold War.” This video was not created for monetary gain of any kind.) 

This is truly amazing. The dancing, photography and music are each excellent on their own, and resulting combination is a masterpiece.

(Source: freekygeekyproductions)

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Anonymous asked: I don't know if this has been asked before. My partner would prefer it if i could introduce him to my family as trans--however, I have no idea how to explain it without them thinking I'm in a lesbian relationship. I would prefer to not introduce him as trans, but we're both concerned about passing

This is a problem I struggled with when I introduced my partner to my mom. I chose not to tell her, and then eventually it did come out. My mother was hurt that I chose not to tell her immediately, but also insinuated that I was in a lesbian relationship. I quickly (and probably a little more rudely than I should have) corrected her and said that he was completely male. So, in my experience, while it’s a little more awkward and uncomfortable, it’s better to be upfront about your partner’s status. This would be a good opportunity for you to explain that your partner isn’t female, that you are in a straight relationship, and that it would be disrespectful for them to say otherwise. You might have to field some questions, but it it might be better for you both in the long run (especially if he’s not passing well) to come out. However, I don’t know your family, and I don’t know you two. It might be easier for you to not do it immediately. I regret not doing it immediately.

Best of luck to you both. <3