1. Social Etiquette 101 (For when you talk to transgender/transsexual people)
If you make a mistake, accept being corrected gracefully, and move on. You don’t have to be terrified of accidentally offending someone. That just makes things awkward. If you make a mistake and dwell on it, that’s…
I think this post has a lot of things to offer. There are a few things that go against what I’ve been learning (like never calling someone an ftm because he is male—I’ve learned call someone what they want to be called…. and “trans” isn’t a word by itself. It is a prefix, hence my use of trans*…) But the is a really good resource for those who want some basic information.
Thank you so much for reblogging my Kickstarter campaign on your page. That was such a pleasant surprise! Thank you so much for your support.
I just added the trailer to my page and invite you to check it out. And if you feel so compelled again to reblog my link (now that it has this awesome trailer attached), I would love that very much!
If you google "Kickstarter Chris/tina Pilot Episode Shoot", you will find my page at the very top.
As new requirements for voter identification are debated in state legislatures around the country, concerns are being raised that these requirements may discourage voting by certain groups of citizens — including transgender people.
Shula Asher Silberstein, a contributor to Gather.com, writes that a proposed Pennsylvania law requiring all voters to present a photo ID at their polling places could disenfranchise transgender people.
“Suppose a trans woman’s photo ID has a male name and photo on it or a trans man’s ID is that of a woman,” Silberstein writes. “Poll workers might question the person’s identity, drawing public attention to the voter’s identity as a trans individual. For this reason, many trans voters may choose to stay home out of fear of violence. Worse yet, statistics show that trans women of color are more likely to suffer violence than any other group, so the trans voters who do come out might be overwhelmingly white.”
Other activists have voiced concerns that voter ID laws may tend to depress turnout among racial minorities, the elderly, disabled people, and the youngest voters — all of whom, according to various studies, are less likely than the general population to have the type of identification required by such laws.
Voter ID laws, being considered in about 30 states, tend to be backed by conservatives, and some liberal politicians and activists say they are a means to reduce the number of likely Democratic voters. Some in Pennsylvania have called that state’s legislation “an unabashed political effort by Republicans to disenfranchise poor, elderly, and minority voters,” The Philadelphia Inquirer reports, while supporters of the bill say it is simply a means of keeping elections honest.
Pennsylvania’s House of Representatives is likely to vote on the bill any day, according to the Inquirer, and then it goes to the Senate. A similar bill passed in 2006 but then-governor Ed Rendell vetoed it; current governor Tom Corbett says he would sign the legislation.
In the wake of the failure of GENDA to pass and become the law of New York state for the fourth time, there has been some justified anger and venting about the lack of support from the GL community on this issue.
But the bottom line is that we trans people also have the ultimate responsibility of looking out for our damned selves just like the New York GL peeps did on the same sex marriage bill and pass the civil rights laws we need.
This is a vent, and this is the best place for my vent:
So every time there is a conversation about trans people dating cis people, cis people come out of the woodwork to lay down the command that all trans people are required to disclose upon commencing any relationship. They also say that not disclosing is explicitly lying.
I would like to point out that the “need” to disclose seems entirely aimed at AMAB trans* people. There is no similar regulating discourse for AFAB trans* people. There are a number of different reasons for this, I think.
Reblogged for the first part and for the commentary. The double standard is horrible.
Here is a blog my boyfriend and I run that shows the highs, lows, and funny situations a couple can go through during a partner’s transition. A new post is in the works now. We just moved from Michigan to Texas, so things have been rather hectic and there hasn’t been much time to blog. :) ~writeoutoflove.tumblr.com
My boyfriend showed me this tumblr a couple weeks ago, and I’m so glad he did! It’s a wonderful resource. <3
This goes out to the trans allies out there. Us trans folk get put down by a lot of people, and it’s easy to become bitter. But you manage to pick us up and keep us believing in a better tomorrow. We couldn’t do it without you. So here’s to:
Same sex marriage may be legal now but did you know that as a transgender person living in the state you can be denied housing, fired from your job, and not served in public places all because you are transgender?
On June 14th the New York State Assembly passed the…
As you may have noticed if you are a regular viewer, I’m a partner of a wonderful (and wonderfully handsome) transman. This makes it difficult for me to find posts relevant to those who are SOFFAs of transwomen and other genderqueer individuals.
So… Here’s where I need your help. I’m trying the best I can to find information that is for everyone, but I don’t know the right places to look. And, as we’ve all found, it’s really hard sometimes to find anything worthwhile. So, I want your help. Submit something that you think would be relevant to this blog. Pictures, links, articles, blog entries, whatever. I’m specifically asking for those I mentioned earlier, but I won’t turn anything of pertinence down.
Remember: SOFFAs aren’t just partners, although this blog is probably skewed towards them because what I am interested in.
In sum: Please submit things you find helpful and inspiring including (but not limited to) pictures, quotes, articles, blogs, and/or topics that you think something more needs to be said about it.
“The phenomenon of calling public attention to the most colorful and, at times, more controversial characters is not unique to media coverage of Gay Pride parades. When television cameras pan football stadiums, more airtime is given to the men and women with foam rubber cheese block on their heads than the father and son dressed in the hooded L.L. Bean parkas. Likewise, shots of college students on spring break are more likely to focus on inebriated coeds running around topless than any other group. But even with this media attention, the general public doesn’t draw the conclusion that all football fans walk around throughout their daily lives with ridiculous looking hats on their heads and painted skin or that all 19-year-old women are on Florida’s beaches taking their tops off.”—
hello im Alex from the Philippines. I have a partner and she lives in Anaheim, California. We were together last November 'til March. Before she went back, we have decided to get married here in the Philippines. We have MCC Chapels here that undergoes Holy Union. Though it is not legal, me and my partner are both happy. It was the perfect feeling knowing that our relationship was blessed and witnessed by God.
My question is, since it is now legal in two states, is it possible that i can apply for a visa to go to California so we can both go to New York just to get married? It would be a blessing if you can suggest a lawyer that can help me and my partner to be together. You see, we both live alone. :( We wish to be together so we can start our family with children by not having distance dividing us. i will be honest enough that it is not easy to acquire a visa from the Philippines because some tend to overstay. I am looking for all possible options to go to my wife and live with her in a legal. She, going here back and forth is a lot of money already plus it breaks our hearts knowing that our time to be together is always "limited" like what is that an expiry date to be happy? I believe we should have equal rights that i can also apply for a fiancee visa to go see my partner just like straight couples do. Yes we feel hopeless, i just wish to be together so i can take care of her. Be able to cook her food prepare her clothes for work, simple things, we both need each other. :(
I am in no way a legal representative, but what I know of federal government and the recognition of “gay” marriage, I don’t think this is possible. Marriage between two individuals of the same sex is not recognized by the federal government, only by a few certain states. I don’t want to be the bearer of bad news, but from what I know (which, again, isn’t much), it seems your best bet is to get a work visa and go from there (getting permanent status, etc). I’m sorry I can’t help more. All the information I’m finding doesn’t look good for a marriage visa between the two of you. I wish you both the best of luck. <3
With the holidays coming up, I know many of you will be traveling by plane, and there has been a great deal of talk about trans people and the new TSA security policies. It is concerning enough that I think it warrants a whole post.
Welcome to ftmKICKSTART, where your gender journey begins. Kickstart was created to help newly questioning/transition transguys answer initial questions about the transition process and translife in general. We are here to help YOU; to help make those daunting first steps a little bit easier. We will address issues we had starting out and others we tackled along the way.
Again, not really for us SOFFAs, but I like to watch these videos to see what other people are having to go through.
So my spouse came out to and said he wants to transition earlier this year. I've had an inkling since we first got together almost 9 years ago. I just thought maybe he identified as trans but would't physically transition. I completely support him in this. I'm just not sure if I can have a husband now instead of a wife. Somedays I think i'll be fine with everything and the next day i'm not so sure. I guess my question is : is this normal? I dont really have anyone to discuss this with
I think this is completely normal. You are also going through a transition period; it takes some time getting used to the idea. Make sure you are talking to your partner about these issues. He might be able to help you understand what he is going through. Have you considered joining a support group? If you live in a bigger city, there sometimes are in person support groups. I’m content with just TransFriends (which you are welcome to join). I wish you the best of luck, both you and your partner. <3
Hey all! If you’re in the state of Indiana, you may be interested in Indy Boyz/Indy Girlz! We’re a peer led support group for FTM, MTF and SOFFAs. We meet on the 4th Saturday of every month in Indianapolis. And we just started a Tumblr! Feel free follow, reblog, and ask us questions! -> http://indyboyzngirlz.tumblr.com/
How is it that your girlfriend loves doing things to you but then doesnt get turned on by girls yet she fell in love with me and doesnt want me to go anywhere? Is there something we can do to work on that?
Hello, I've finally been able to identify after much time trying to find myself; as a gender queer. I'm female that likes to embrace masculinity physically and romantically (I feel like a straight man) and revert to being a girl the next. I plan on binding with the shirts I see at T kingdom. Also, I have a question.. Do you think testosterone cream for women would be able to make facial features more male? Or would the side effects be too negative? or is there any other solutions for my situation? Thank you so much for your thoughts. <3
So, I know this isn't exactly what you're here for, but I don't know who else I can ask.
I'm a 17 year old girl who, if all goes to plan, will be going to uni in Sept. As you can guess from my being here, I identify as trans. I told one of my friends about a week after 'coming out' online, two others found out after finding my blog. I can't afford surgery right now, and won't be able to for a while, what I'm asking is would it be wrong to ask the people I meet at uni to use male descriptions of me, like 'him;?
I’m not completely qualified to answer this, but I would say that it is completely reasonable for you to ask people to use your preferred pronouns, especially since you are meeting new people. Good luck!
From the site: An interview with author and gender studies professor, Helen Boyd about being married to a trans woman. Helen describes her early courtship to a man who “occasionally cross-dressed” and how this evolved into loving her partner through transition into becoming a woman. She accepted the experience as an invitation to explore her own relationship to gender from being a young tomboy, to pressures to conform to traditional ideas about femininity as she grew up. Helen explores what it is like to be perceived now as a lesbian because she is married to a woman, and how she and Betty have each worked to honor each other’s sexual and gender needs through the process of transition.
I have now told thirty-ish people from school and whatnot that I am transgender and every last one of them has been supportive. Every message has been wonderful and full of kind words. A guy I used to share studio time with at Vincennes welcomed me as his “charcoal warrior brother.” It was a…