Since a transman can still get pregnant while on testosterone (even though the chance is slim), can he still use a home pregnancy test? Or will his hormones affect the results and give a false negative/positive or something?
“Our purpose is to provide support, information and resources to help parents confidently navigate their gender independent child’s personal journey of self-discovery to authentic living.”
We’re seeing an uptick in support groups for those who make up the safety-net for transfolks. From coffee shop meet-ups for partners of transmen to formalized meetings at children’s hospitals, pediatric specialists and students hanging in the background, for parents of trans*youth - recognizing the importance of positive and safe spaces for our supporters is crucial.
Transgender Day of Remembrance is an important day for trans* people and the LGBTQ communities, and it can also be a difficult day. If you’re having a hard time, we’re here to support you: 866-488-7386. You matter to us so much.
Like many, if not most, trans women of color, I have a lot of serious anger about the Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDoR). It’s flawed not just in concept, “owned” by a white trans woman who shun…
I tried to make the title be a 2Pac reference too, but that was just pushing it. But maybe “Learn to see me as a (sister) instead of two distant strangers”?
THIS IS IMPORTANT! Please read the full article!
“It’s time to listen to trans women of color…(I can wish for every day, but) at least one day a year.
….There is such a severe disconnect that part of what would help is that if white trans people in general listened to us this one day a year it could be a catalyst, or so I try to believe. Our realities include much more than how we’re seen in the TDoR list-of-names format: dead people. We are so much more than that, and our realities might be uncomfortable to the “trans community” or maybe, just maybe, the “trans community” will see us as something more than just a list of names of dead people and a bunch of inconvenient bodies and realities to dismiss in life.
Reforming TDoR is a huge part of beginning to include trans women of color as part of the trans community. It’s all about addressing the violence against us as trans women of color. And, well, it’s part of healing, a matter on which I must defer once again to the Prophet Pac: “It takes skill to be real, time to heal each other.” Let’s get started.”
This is a very interesting article about Transgender Day of Remembrance. It’s important to remember that although most of us have experienced transphobia and many of us even fear for our personal safety, the vast majority of violence is directed toward transgender women of color. Looking at the list of the dead, in this year as in all years (that I know of), they are primarily trans* women of color. While some of the points of this article may be controversial to some people, most should at least accept the point that we need to all make a larger effort to listen to and include trans* women of color and not co-opt their experiences in TDoR and in our movements in general.
I am a straight cisgirl dating a trans guy, and he is my first. So far everything has been really great, but it has now gotten past casually dating and into serious dating and he is feeling a little worried about whether I will ever start to miss cis men or their parts. While I am not the first straight girl he's dated, I am the first straight girl he's dated seriously since he transitioned. Do you have any advice for how to be comforting and reassuring? Does this type of insecurity ever go away
My advice is to just keep telling him that you won’t miss cismen and their parts. Most transmen prefer for male descriptors to be used to described to their bodies—recognizing that you see him as male may help alleviate that stress.
I can’t say that it will ever go away. It might when he feels comfortable in his body and with your relationship, but it may always be present. My boyfriend likens this feeling to the feeling some women have about their weight. Some women will always have a fear that their men will leave them for someone skinnier no matter how many times her partner says she’s beautiful. Others feel more secure as the relationship progresses.
I wish the two of you the best of luck. These issues can be serious, but I think the both of you can work together to make it better.
Saying, “being gay has never been a Republican or Democrat issue,” Zach Wyatt, a Christian Republican state representative in Missouri, this morning came out against his state’s proposed “Don’t Say Gay” bill — then came out as gay himself….
Hi there. A friend of mine recently came out as trans, but they said that they don't plan on living as a guy until they go to college. Should I start referring to them with male pronouns and their guy name now, or just continue calling them their girl name and female pronouns until they leave? Thanks, and this is a great blog!
This isn’t something I can answer. Ask your friend what zie would prefer. If zie prefers you to wait or to only do it in private, then respect your friend’s wishes. It might be a rocky transition for the both of you, getting used to that, but in the end, it’s your friend’s choice.
YAY! WE ordered sweet Stickers today! right now we have 49 followers! I’ll send out stickers to our 50th follower! Along with anyone who submits new resources to the blog!
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Some things we’re looking for
Trans* person of the month - (Tell us your story, accomplishments, goals/include photos etc.)
Artist of the month - We will promote an artist for the month, displaying art, writing, photography (Please include 5-10 pieces of work/bio/website ect.)
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Valentines Day may be one of the most hated holidays of the year, but hopefully everybody has been able to make the best of today. We at Art of Transliness are still taking submissions for the theme (trans* guys with their supporters), and here’s an example from Zak:
Fight for Equality - on Facebook is having a contest where you post a picture and explain what equality means to you. This is mine.
WHAT EQUALITY MEANS TO ME: this is a photo of my family. I can’t accept anything less than full equality for my cisgender daughter and my transgender son. That they both will be EQUALLY protected by law in the workplace, in their marriages,parenting, in ALL WAYS. My son’s girlfriend should never fear her employers finding out that her partner is trans. This should never affect their ability to find housing, insurance, property ownership, in the parenting of their future children. Those are my grandchildren from my daughter. Their future cousins must have the same rights as they enjoy. Equality to me is that the two children to whom I gave birth will be afforded EQUALITY- nothing more, and NOTHING LESS.
Hey… you all should go vote on the pic of me, half of art of transliness, and more of pflagmom’s family.
i'm a straight male interested in someone who is ftm. is this a no-go? how can i avoid offending him?
Are you interested in him because he is female-bodied? That’s quite offensive and is more than likely a no-go. However, if you are genuinely interested in him as a person or are thinking it might be good to explore your sexuality, then this is more doable. Explain to him that you are straight, but are interested in him as a male, not as a female. Who knows you might decide that he is a perfect partner and you aren’t as straight as you thought!
Advice for a soffa looking to help out with surgery recovery? I feel lost but I want to be there all that I can.
For me, it was a lot of patience and helping do things like putting on xeroform and showering. Also, food runs. Motion is fairly limited after surgery, so straws are highly recommended.
Keeping your partner entertained is going to be a huge struggle. They won’t be able to do much on their own for a little while—-even when they think they can, if he doesn’t want to stretch his scars, he needs to limit motion. Zak wished he would have packed more DVDs because the internet connection at the hotel was really slow.
You should also be aware that many transmen experience post-surgery depression. Coming off anesthesia can affect mood, as well as the anticipation of surgery being so great that the actual event is a let down. It isn’t a quick fix for disphoria, and many hope that it will be.
my close friend of 5 years and boyfriend of 1 month recently disclosed to me that he was born female and transitioned when he was 11 (he's 21 now). however, the terminology he used was odd: he never said "trans-" anything (though he transitioned from female to male), and told me that he sees it as a private medical problem. have you ever heard of this? where can i find resources or information? i'm kind of reeling right now. thank you.
Yes, this is not uncommon. Many people who transition young (but not limited to those who do) feel this way. Regularguy93 speaks regularly about this. You should check him out.
As for resources or information, I don’t really know of any specific to those who transitioned and don’t identify as trans*, although I feel as though much of the advice I would offer any soffa would hold up. Talk to him about it, read some books about trans* issues, etc. Best of luck.
“The word “transgender” is an adjective, and a descriptive word; not a noun or a verb. Just as you wouldn’t call an older person “an old” or say they are “olded”, it is inappropriate to refer to a transgender person as “a transgender” without adding “person”, “woman”, “man”, or any other appropriate noun.”—How to Respect a Transgender Person (via kristt)
I don't know if this has been asked before. My partner would prefer it if i could introduce him to my family as trans--however, I have no idea how to explain it without them thinking I'm in a lesbian relationship. I would prefer to not introduce him as trans, but we're both concerned about passing
This is a problem I struggled with when I introduced my partner to my mom. I chose not to tell her, and then eventually it did come out. My mother was hurt that I chose not to tell her immediately, but also insinuated that I was in a lesbian relationship. I quickly (and probably a little more rudely than I should have) corrected her and said that he was completely male. So, in my experience, while it’s a little more awkward and uncomfortable, it’s better to be upfront about your partner’s status. This would be a good opportunity for you to explain that your partner isn’t female, that you are in a straight relationship, and that it would be disrespectful for them to say otherwise. You might have to field some questions, but it it might be better for you both in the long run (especially if he’s not passing well) to come out. However, I don’t know your family, and I don’t know you two. It might be easier for you to not do it immediately. I regret not doing it immediately.