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Anonymous asked: I am a straight cisgirl dating a trans guy, and he is my first. So far everything has been really great, but it has now gotten past casually dating and into serious dating and he is feeling a little worried about whether I will ever start to miss cis men or their parts. While I am not the first straight girl he's dated, I am the first straight girl he's dated seriously since he transitioned. Do you have any advice for how to be comforting and reassuring? Does this type of insecurity ever go away

My advice is to just keep telling him that you won’t miss cismen and their parts. Most transmen prefer for male descriptors to be used to described to their bodies—recognizing that you see him as male may help alleviate that stress. 

I can’t say that it will ever go away. It might when he feels comfortable in his body and with your relationship, but it may always be present. My boyfriend likens this feeling to the feeling some women have about their weight. Some women will always have a fear that their men will leave them for someone skinnier no matter how many times her partner says she’s beautiful. Others feel more secure as the relationship progresses. 

I wish the two of you the best of luck. These issues can be serious, but I think the both of you can work together to make it better.

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QBits: GOP Lawmaker Comes Out As Gay Then Comes Out Against Don’t Say Gay Bill

The title has it wrong—He spoke out against the bill, then came out as gay. But I think this is powerful stuff here. Just remember to not judge someone by their party, but by their actions.

qbits:

by David Badash onMay 2, 2012

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Saying, “being gay has never been a Republican or Democrat issue,” Zach Wyatt, a Christian Republican state representative in Missouri, this morning came out against his state’s proposed “Don’t Say Gay” bill — then came out as gay himself….

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duct-tape-duke asked: Hi there. A friend of mine recently came out as trans, but they said that they don't plan on living as a guy until they go to college. Should I start referring to them with male pronouns and their guy name now, or just continue calling them their girl name and female pronouns until they leave? Thanks, and this is a great blog!

This isn’t something I can answer. Ask your friend what zie would prefer. If zie prefers you to wait or to only do it in private, then respect your friend’s wishes. It might be a rocky transition for the both of you, getting used to that, but in the end, it’s your friend’s choice.

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BLITZ Stickers!

YAY! WE ordered sweet Stickers today! right now we have 49 followers! I’ll send out stickers to our 50th follower! Along with anyone who submits new resources to the blog!

***The purpose of our blog is to create an open resource and personal interaction for the Trans* community. There fore we ask that you include contact info in your submissions, so our users can speak with you first hand about your personal posts to our site.***

Some things we’re looking for

  • Trans* person of the month - (Tell us your story, accomplishments, goals/include photos etc.)
  • Artist of the month - We will promote an artist for the month, displaying art, writing, photography (Please include 5-10 pieces of work/bio/website ect.)
  • Artists - One piece of work, a link to you or your work and contact info for our directory
  • Resource links for any of our categories

  • Natural Transition Stories 
  •  Surgery Before and After photos

The more followers the more Merchandise and Giveaways i can do! Thanks for following and your support <3 BLITZ

 

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I'm A PFLAG Mom: Fight for Equality

knowhomo:

Alright everyone,

If you are not familiar with PFLAG Mom on Tumblr, I highly recommend you check out her blog. She is a phenomenal ally voice and a great person for insight outside of the teen/twenty-something bubble. 

If you have a Facebook account and feel inclined, please “like” her post and picture. You can find a copy of the picture below (the same picture is posted on the Fight for Equality page).

Keep On Supporting Allies!

-R.

pflagmom:

Fight for Equality - on Facebook is having a contest where you post a picture and explain what equality means to you. This is mine.


WHAT EQUALITY MEANS TO ME: this is a photo of my family. I can’t accept anything less than full equality for my cisgender daughter and my transgender son. That they both will be EQUALLY protected by law in the workplace, in their marriages,parenting, in ALL WAYS. My son’s girlfriend should never fear her employers finding out that her partner is trans. This should never affect their ability to find housing, insurance, property ownership, in the parenting of their future children. Those are my grandchildren from my daughter. Their future cousins must have the same rights as they enjoy. Equality to me is that the two children to whom I gave birth will be afforded EQUALITY- nothing more, and NOTHING LESS.


Hey… you all should go vote on the pic of me, half of art of transliness, and more of pflagmom’s family.