Like many, if not most, trans women of color, I have a lot of serious anger about the Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDoR). It’s flawed not just in concept, “owned” by a white trans woman who shun…
I tried to make the title be a 2Pac reference too, but that was just pushing it. But maybe “Learn to see me as a (sister) instead of two distant strangers”?
THIS IS IMPORTANT! Please read the full article!
“It’s time to listen to trans women of color…(I can wish for every day, but) at least one day a year.
….There is such a severe disconnect that part of what would help is that if white trans people in general listened to us this one day a year it could be a catalyst, or so I try to believe. Our realities include much more than how we’re seen in the TDoR list-of-names format: dead people. We are so much more than that, and our realities might be uncomfortable to the “trans community” or maybe, just maybe, the “trans community” will see us as something more than just a list of names of dead people and a bunch of inconvenient bodies and realities to dismiss in life.
Reforming TDoR is a huge part of beginning to include trans women of color as part of the trans community. It’s all about addressing the violence against us as trans women of color. And, well, it’s part of healing, a matter on which I must defer once again to the Prophet Pac: “It takes skill to be real, time to heal each other.” Let’s get started.”
This is a very interesting article about Transgender Day of Remembrance. It’s important to remember that although most of us have experienced transphobia and many of us even fear for our personal safety, the vast majority of violence is directed toward transgender women of color. Looking at the list of the dead, in this year as in all years (that I know of), they are primarily trans* women of color. While some of the points of this article may be controversial to some people, most should at least accept the point that we need to all make a larger effort to listen to and include trans* women of color and not co-opt their experiences in TDoR and in our movements in general.